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To The Ones Becoming: I Am Truly Becoming

I am grateful that I am becoming. Trust me, I’m not halfway to who and where I want to be, but I am grateful for the effort and intentionality my life lies on. I’m sure most people are still confused about this whole becoming ish, but I know what I want and what I am trying to achieve through this journey. One of it is to bet on myself. To not give up easily. To build mental strength to weather any storm. The Word of God even says that if I falter in the day of trouble, that means I never really built anything to even have a solid foundation in the first place. The truth is, life is not always going to be easy. Life is not easy for anyone, but how we handle it is what makes the difference. For me, I realized that I don’t always handle life’s uncertainties well, and I know this trait won’t help me live the kind of life God wants me to live. So I have always wanted to be that person who stands strong regardless of what life throws, because that is the right response. The Word of God says...
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To The Ones Becoming: I Will Continue To Fight For My Life

Firstly, this is my cue to always write as I am inspired. The topic of this week is on fighting for my life, and that is because sometime this week, I was overwhelmed and I had a meltdown. I realized that I had been welling up a lot of things down my throat, and a meaningless trigger burst through it before I could say jack. I was tempted to withdraw, my best coping mechanism. I thought about the last 10 weeks, how I have travailed through hard, unpredictable, tiresome, and busy days. I have come too far, I thought to myself. I have to pull myself together and continue to fight for my life. I cannot afford to give up. I just can’t. I love motivation. I don’t care about the slur around motivation and motivational speakers because I believe they have an impact they make in the life of someone, although I also believe another truth,  that motivation is not enough. I hold that balance in my mind. So this week, I deployed both of these truths to my reality. I. Will. Continue. To. Fight....
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To The Ones Becoming: On Intentionality, Consistency, Resilience and Anti-Fragility

This past week I had a lot of things on my mind to write about, all thanks to being able to sit with my thoughts, not multitask, and reducing screen time at night (although this was just like 3 days out of the 7 days this week). One of them is how being intentional will always move one forward. Structure is important, but intentionality rules it all. Nine weeks into my 12-week year, and this is just my conclusion. Reading my Bible and book for the month in transit. Waking up by 4:30 a.m. to read my Bible before my 5 to 6 prayer. Going to bed after night prayers and not scrolling on social media even though I badly want to. I think unconsciously sacrificing my social life for my goals should make this list because really all I think about each day is getting my non-negotiables done and not letting anything or anyone disrupt my plans. I am just trying to say that intentionality is one trait anyone who wants to do a lot of things outside their comfort zone must prioritize. Intentionality ...
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To The Ones Becoming: On Loving People The Way The Would Want To Be Loved

"Love People the Way They Want to Be Loved." I learned that thoroughly this week. I have always known this, but this week I realized that knowing is one thing. Doing is another. I have a dear sister. She is a people person. I am not. She likes to go all out for people and would appreciate you doing the same for her. Me, I no too send. She honours and serves people with presence. I mean she will be there. Just like the Yoruba people do the ajosepo thing. If it is the wedding of a sister or a friend, she will travel thousands of miles. She will do souvenirs. She will show up fully. That is the kind of person my sister is. I am entirely different. I know it is a special day, but somewhere at the bottom of my mind I would think, it is just another Friday. Because that is how I now see special days in my own life. I was not always like this. I used to be the type that stayed up till 12 am so I could be the first to wish a friend happy birthday. Suddenly, I became the type that f...
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To The Ones Becoming: I Realized I Have No Respect For Time

I realized I have no respect for time… or maybe it’s overconfidence. Yes, I have a very busy life (though a productive one). "Almost everyone does, Juliana, lol" Me: I know and that is why I am here writing about this. I know not all high achievers or ambitious people give 19 waking hours to tasks without white spaces or buffers. This busy life is structured. Very structured. Meaning, I know what I want to do each day. The problem is when to do it. I struggle with scheduling. Some days, I’m busy from 4:30 AM to midnight. That’s not sustainable, and I feel it. I’ve said this countless times: I crave depth. I know and have seen what it can do for me. The more focus I give something, the quicker I can finish it. But I’m still learning to be a person of depth, still recovering from social media attention drain, though I occasionally relapse.  Right now, gathering all my attention on one task takes time. And yes, it drains me. Some days, I feel my willpower is about to run out. St...
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To The Ones Becoming: Just Start

Just Start. I honestly wish I could write only that and call it a wrap, because truly, it is not more, not less. Just start. We have all heard this phrase countless times. And I think that is exactly why I am writing about it today. Sometimes, when something is repeated too often, we begin to lose its weight. Especially when people we don’t trust or don’t think know what they are saying keep saying it. But I’ve realized something. The fact that a word or phrase is repeated by everyone does not and will never undermine its meaning. I know this because I have seen so many phrases we dismiss as “motivational talk” work powerfully in my own life, once I actually practice them. One of them is: just start. Just start clueless. Just start uncertain. Just start full of doubt. Just start not ready. Just start afraid. Just start . We are 53 days into the year. I found myself thinking that if I hadn’t started the things I began on January 1st, these 53 days would still have passed, but they w...
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To The Ones Becoming: Structure Will Save Your Life

The year is getting busier. I must say. This week, I struggled to tick off everything on my list. I thought I had a structure in place. (Screams.😂) But the good thing is this: I actually do have a structure. And if I didn’t, with how busy the week became, I would have faltered. I would have failed, woefully, not positively, and maybe even given up. But I prevailed. So many things tugged at my attention. So many small urgencies tried to scatter me. But I prevailed. And it’s too late to give up now. If you haven’t taken one lesson from all the reflections I’ve written so far, let this be the one: Structure will save your life. It will guard and shield you. This week showed me something important. The year is getting busier. So my structure cannot remain fragile. It has to evolve. For example, with my community, I currently facilitate a weekly finance-focused check-in. That is good. It helps the community grow. But I realized something: I can speed up growth by being more intentional ab...
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