What the African Home Taught Me About Sisterhood — and How I’m Defying It
I’ll just cut to the chase: 1. Learning to Build Friendship, Not Hierarchy Things that seem justifiable are often the hardest to unlearn. For me, it starts with how I relate to my younger sister — the things I’m intentionally trying not to do. I’m trying to stop her from being overly respectful with me because why? Because I don’t really trust it — or myself. What if I get too comfortable and then I abuse that over-respect? Maybe not now, but sometime in the future when she no longer needs me for most things like she does now. Right now, she takes most things I say because, quote-unquote, she’s younger, needs my help, yada yada yada. And because it’s always been this way, it’s easy to think it will continue like that forever. But one day, I might be left with my mouth agape in shock when it no longer does. Because the truth is, she might just be bearing with me right now because she doesn’t have more options. She’s in her dependent era of life, and everyone might be trying to shape her...